It’s one of the most commonly doled out nuggets of
professional advice: "Go with your gut." But it’s a very challenging
system to consistently implement.
"We spend our workdays in our outer world. We’re
interacting with our team members and clients. We don’t have enough time in our
inner world where we can reflect on those experiences and listen to what our
gut might have to say," says Hana Ayoub, a professional development coach.
"Trusting
your gut is trusting the collection of all your subconscious experiences."
Why is trusting your gut so powerful? Because your gut has
been cataloging a whole lot of information for as long as you’ve been alive.
"Trusting your gut is trusting the collection of all your subconscious
experiences," says Melody Wilding, a licensed therapist and professor of
human behavior at Hunter College.
"Your gut is this collection of heuristic shortcuts.
It’s this unconscious-conscious learned experience center that you can draw on
from your years of being alive," she explains. "It holds insights
that aren’t immediately available to your conscious mind right now, but they’re
all things that you’ve learned and felt. In the moment, we might not be readily
able to access specific information, but our gut has it at the ready."
"I’ve never heard a client say, ‘I regret going with my
gut,’" says Ayoub. Think
of all the time and mental energy that can be conserved by not having to
overthink your next move. Here's how you can start right now.
Carve Out Time To Reflect
After a meeting or interaction that requires a decision on
your part, give yourself mental space to reflect. "Instead of grabbing a
coffee in the kitchen, take a walk around the block. Spend time alone. Even if
it’s just a minute," says Ayoub.
If it’s a bigger decision you need to make, Ayoub recommends
creating a larger window before you need to respond. "Start telling
people: ‘I need to sleep on this, I’ll get back to you tomorrow.’ Start
building that response into your conversations, especially with the people you
work with most. It’s telling people that’s how you work."
"You
have to create space to listen to what your gut is saying. That’s why people
say they get their best ideas in the shower," says Wilding. "Start to
think back and do an audit of your day. It’s intentional mind wandering."
Give Yourself Constraints
Lou Leone, the founder of Leadinary, a management consulting
and executive coaching firm for startups, has an exercise for those who
overanalyze. Every time you have a big decision or tough choice to make, give
yourself a half hour window to make it.
"At the end of that half hour, you’re going to have to
use your gut. That forces you to be more instinctive," says Leone.
Did you say "should?" "Whenever I hear
clients say ‘I should,’ I say: ‘According to who?’ They usually say, ‘family
pressure’ or ‘I guess I’m making it up.’ The ‘should’s’ help people tune in to
when they’re not listening to their gut," says Ayoub.
Be Aware Of Your Feelings
Wilding recommends developing an awareness of how you feel
during work situations. "Do a body scan of what’s going on for you. You
may think, I feel nervous right now, or I feel like I’m not sure what’s coming
next. Use those skills of emotional labeling to get in touch with what your gut
might be saying to you," says Wilding.
List Every Time Your Gut Instinct Served You
Being instinctive isn’t simply an innate trait: It’s a
quality that increases or decreases given how much we practice doing it well.
Lou Leone recommends listing all the times you trusted your gut and whether the
outcome was favorable.
"By going through the exercise, you’ll see, ‘When I
trusted my gut, I always felt good about the decision I made,’" says
Leone. He says that with repetition, "Your gut starts getting better at
doing what’s right for you."
"As
similar situations arise and you have an instinct, you realize you had this
instinct before, and it’s that much stronger," he explains. "Your
instinct gets sharper and more reactive. Then, when you experience positive
outcomes, it creates a positive feedback loop." With time, you can
comfortably defer more and more of your decision-making to your gut instinct.