Second, and more importantly, a man really has to abandon the idea that he is ever likely to be any woman’s first choice. It can happen, and I have witnessed it happening, but it is very rare. Not only are you unlikely to be a woman’s first choice, the odds are very, very high that you’re not even in her ideal top 40. Unless you happen to marry a young woman who was first infatuated with you when she was 12, there will usually be some other man whom she would have preferred to you if she could have attracted him or been able to hold his interest.
Relationships are all about reality. And reality concerns that which is real, not that which makes you feel good about yourself or that which you wish was real.
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