One of the women reading this site had a request after reading Marriage as a Team Sport:
This is a great post. Could you do one for women, too, for how to improve their marriages according to their husband’s SSH? Sigmas wives too, please. I know there aren’t many of us, but basically all the marriage advice is written for Delta wives, and in my experience it just annoys my husband. He might not need advice, but I do!
Specifically, since marriage is a “team sport”, how do I communicate with him in a way that he does not find annoying? Your post on how to talk to a high status man has been very helpful in general, but I’m wondering if you have any more marriage-specific advice for Sigma wives. How do I work in a team with a man who prefers not to work in a team?
The problem is that every Sigma is very different in a way that is not true of other SSH ranks. And, of course, not being either an Alpha, a Bravo, or a wife, my advice in this regard should be considered wholly theoretical and quite possibly wrong.....
Full text:
https://sigmagame.substack.com/p/talking-to-your-teammate?publication_id=2265630&utm_campaign=email-post-title&r=y7h5a&utm_medium=email
....Sigma: Always respect his independence and need for solitude; don’t take it personally when he disappears or seems emotionally distant. It doesn’t have anything to do with you. Because he habitually operates outside normal social hierarchies and conventions, appeals to what everyone else does won’t work. Be direct without being demanding. Sigmas appreciate honesty but overreact to direct attempts to control or manipulate them through social pressure, rhetoric, or emotional appeals. Try to accept that his detachment isn’t coldness, it’s just how he’s wired, and communicate your needs clearly without expecting him to intuit them from hints. On the plus side, the fact that he bothered to marry you probably indicates that he’s personally obsessed with you in ways that would likely make you uncomfortable. Whatever he’s on about at the moment, don’t ask, just do your best to roll with it.