......Women approach relationships from a position of abundance. Every single woman has her choice of a very wide variety of men, whether she realizes it or not. The fact that she ignores the vast majority of them as being beneath her doesn’t change the fact that they actually exist and they are legitimate options for her.
Men approach relationships from a position of scarcity. Every man knows the difference between his initial appeal to women in terms of initial attractiveness and his long-term appeal to women in terms of providing for her lifestyle. Moreover, he has already qualified the woman by approaching her in the first place.
So what I observe is women regularly failing to understand that by talking about her past, she is not, as she thinks, increasing her value in his eyes, but rather reducing it as well as calling into question her attraction to him. In this case, the young woman compounded the damage not only drawing attention to her past shenanigans, but outright telling him that he did not measure up to her previous standard for a sexual partner.
I see women do this far too often. For some reason probably related to their intrasex status games, women love to talk about how they weren’t initially attracted to their husbands, but eventually grew to appreciate him over time. And whether women believe it or not, this is an absolute fucking insult to those husbands, often delivered publicly right to their faces.
Because men understand, as women do not, that there is a difference between the man that women are attracted to and the man that a woman believes is willing to provide for her. Real attraction occurs within seconds, it doesn’t gradually blossom over time......
