Now that the eulogy – I mean grotesque political self-aggrandizing
McCain funeral service – is over, featuring some of the most egotistical,
self-serving, and corrupt individuals, Candace Owens succinctly
states that "[t]his new trend of using funerals and eulogies to deliver
political messages is really quite disgusting. Everyone involved
should be ashamed[.]"
Consider how America has lost an awareness of the value of
shame. As defined,
shame is a "painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the
consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior."
James B. Twitchell in his 1997 book For Shame: The Loss of
Common Decency in American Culture asserts that "we are living in
shameless times," as compared to when he was growing up in the 1950s, when
"public drunkenness, filing for bankruptcy ... drug addiction,
hitting a woman, looting stores, using vulgar language in public, being on the
public dole [and] getting a divorce" were considered shameful, and
"most of these reflected concerns about limiting individual behavior
within a group."
What once was considered a private matter now results in haphazard
public defecations. San Francisco currently boasts a "poop
map" as the city reports a 140% rise in feces. Taboos that used
to entail modesty have disappeared.
Instead, according to Twitchell, shame has been "redirected
to trivial concerns," and Americans have lost their "receptiveness to
shame." Promoting unwed teenage mothers and not hectoring their
"reprobate companions" barely raise eyebrows. Twitchell
asks, "Why do we not excoriate the unwed teenage
mother?" Instead, we are privy to a television show
titled Teen Mom.
When Hollywood folk have children out of wedlock, they are
praised, but "all hell would break loose" if someone were caught
wearing mink or baby seal. Our priorities have been turned
inside-out.
In the Jewish Press of July 20, 2018, author John Rosemond
explains how psychologists have long accepted the idea that a child's bad
behavior is nothing more than a symptom of some emotional tension and that
punishment would only make matters worse. Thus, by
"pseudo-intellectual alchemy, a misbehaving child was transformed from a
perpetrator into a victim deserving, not discipline, but great understanding
and sympathy." Such beliefs "absolved ill-behaved children
of responsibility for their various anti-social
outbursts[.]" Shame is not an obstacle to self-esteem, as many
would assert; instead, "shamelessness becomes a cultural toxin."
Daniel Patrick Moynihan coined
the term "Defining Deviancy Down" to describe how we legitimize
behavior previously regarded as antisocial or
criminal." When dysfunctional becomes the norm, the functional
turns abnormal. Consequently, there is nothing unseemly about a
so-called comedian holding up the decapitated head of a president, and there is
nothing improper about inviting someone to a dinner only to bash her publicly
and expect her to sit and smile. Obama created
a scenario where minority students would be held less accountable concerning
school disruptions, therefore delinquency and school violence increased.
In just the first year after Obama in January 2014 issued his new
discipline guidelines – which came with threats of federal investigations and
defunding – schools saw more than 160,000 'physical attacks' on teachers across
the country.
Pointing this out results in being called a racist. The
R-word is used so frequently that it has lost its actual meaning.
In order to distract from behavior that hurts the community,
language is constantly corrupted with such "psychobabble as
'codependency'" and "edubabble as 'invitational education,'"
resulting in the destruction of any real meaning in language.
In Moynihan's Summer 1993 article in The Public Interest, titled
"Toward a New Intolerance," he emphasizes that "most
importantly, and absolutely essential is the decline of
family." Thus, in 1943, the illegitimacy rate in new York City
was three percent. In 1992, it was 45 percent. Two
thousand ten statistics indicate the following:
|
Racial or ethnic group
|
Percent of births considered
"non-marital"
|
|
Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders
|
17 percent
|
|
Non-Hispanic whites
|
29 percent
|
|
Hispanics
|
53 percent
|
|
American Indian and Native Alaskans
|
66 percent
|
|
Non-Hispanic blacks
|
73 percent
|
Moynihan cites correspondence he had with Justice Edwin Torres,
who had been raised in the barrio on 108th Street in New York
City. Torres emphasizes that "a society that loses its sense of
outrage is doomed to extinction."
Yet, broad scale social regression appears to have taken center
stage in this country.
Shelby Steele points out in Shame: How America's Past Sins
have Polarized Our Country how black conservatives are viewed as
"opportunistic or, worse, self-hating, and sycophantic" rather than
as voices that may hold a different point of view. Shame is not used
to create cohesion; it is used to divide America into balkanized political
camps and to denigrate black Americans by smothering their individual
voices.
It is, however, not viewed as shameful that anti-Semitic,
American-hating individuals run for political office. In addition,
criminal behavior is excused. In the past, Marion Barry, former
videotaped crack-smoker, was re-elected as mayor of
Washington. Clinton, a serial rapist, is welcomed to McCain's
funeral, as is his wife, who as a "manifest felon" is the epitome of
every unscrupulous behavior and trickery she can get away with by committing
fraud, harming American lives, and lying to the American public.
Farrakhan,
who hates whites and Jews with a vengeance sits comfortably in the front of the
McCain ceremony and no one bothers to comment about his odious
deeds. Michelle Malkin eloquently describes the crass and despicable
behavior that characterized the John McCain and Aretha Franklin funeral
services.
Twitchell speaks about "intellectual
shame." Grades that were meant to be a catalyst for improvement
become meaningless in a world where any interpretation of a subject is no
better than another. Then grades are eliminated; standardized tests
are no longer mandatory, or scores are manipulated depending upon the ethnicity of
the test-taker.
More recently, the University of Houston, Texas's third largest
university, has been stonewalling allegations that a school
superintendent plagiarized the
doctoral dissertation he submitted as a student at the university's College of
Education.
Rutgers
athletics football program was rocked when law enforcement announced
that six active players were among ten people charged with a string of crimes
around campus including home invasions and aggravated assaults.
At all levels of education, standards have precipitously dropped,
academic expectations are lowered and campus groupthink reigns supreme as
"institutions once devoted to the pursuit of truth and the free exchange
of ideas now engage in the infantilisation of
students." The "crucial ceremonies of adult decency"
are lost.
In 1974 Eric Hoffer penned a piece titled "Long
Live Shame!" wherein he asserted that "there is one dangerous
threat that no society can escape: namely, the recurrent threat of disruption
by juveniles as a young generation passes from boyhood to
manhood." In his cogent piece, he writes:
Shame, far more than guilt, involves an awareness by the
individual of being watched and judged by the group. It is to be expected,
therefore, that the more compact the group, the more pronounced the sense of
shame. The member of a compact group carries the group within him,
and never feels alone.
Yet Woody Allen saw "no moral dilemma whatsoever" in
having an affair with the 20-year-old adopted daughter of Mia Farrow, with whom
he'd raised a family.
Then there is the disgusting display of Harvey Weinstein, who
seemingly can never control himself.
Powerful people continue to be duplicitous and get away with
it. We are still awaiting the truth about Benghazi, Fast and
Furious, and Huma Abedin's Muslim Brotherhood connections.
Then there are the social media moguls. According to
a report in The New York Times, Facebook began
granting inappropriate access to personal information of its users to
third parties around ten years ago, yet in front of Congress, Zuckerberg fudged
this information. This
graphic puts a lie to Zuckerberg's mealy-mouthed assertions.
Should we be surprised that young people have little respect for
any societal rules? The fact that nothing is sacred, that all taboos
are to be dismissively diminished has created a scenario where young people
have no support net to fall back upon.
If America returned to a time wherein bad manners and crude and
lewd behavior were considered verboten instead of being
applauded and protected, perhaps a #MeToo Movement would not have been needed.
Forty-five years since Hoffer wrote "Long Live Shame"
his words are quite prescient.
In this country at present the inability of adults to socialize
their young has made it possible for juveniles to follow their bents, act on
their impulses, and materialize their fantasies and the 'result has been a
youth culture flauntingly shameless.'
Consider the vicious attacks on people and property that are
countenanced, certainly rarely stopped as Antifa, and Black Lives Matters and
their ilk run roughshod in the country. This is not an assertion of
civil liberties. It is pure violence, plain and
simple. College administrators watch while their universities are
trampled upon.
This confirms another Hoffer assertion: "[t]he disconcerting
thing is that loss of shame is not confined to juveniles."
Shame properly used is "how a sense of decency is
developed." It protects the group from the dangers of
individual excesses. It is a balancing tool that keeps people
accountable.
In classical Greek mythology, Aidos was the
"goddess of modesty, shame, reverence and respect. She was a
companion of the goddess Nemesis. As a quality Aidos was the feeling
of shame which restrains men from doing wrong, while Nemesis was righteous
indignation aroused by the sight of wicked men receiving undeserved good
fortune."
Eileen can be reached at middlemarch18@gmail.com.
